Client Lending Library
Clients of Mr. Alpert have free access to the Client Lending Library. The library contains some of the finest books and audio tapes on divorce, custody, domestic violence, and other issues that you are likely to encounter during the legal process. Below is a list of some of the books available. Clients may check out the books and audio tapes for 30 days so that others may have access to the books.
BOOKS
DIVORCE HANGOVER: A Step-By-Step Prescription For Creating A Brighter Future After Your Marriage Ends
Anne N. Waither, M.S. This book offers useful advice and real-world solutions to the many complications – emotional and otherwise – associated with divorce.
YOUR DIVORCE ADVISOR: A Lawyer And A Psychologist Guide You Through The Legal And Emotional Landscape Of Divorce by Diana Mercer J.D., and Marsha Kline Preuett, Ph.D. M.S.L. This book focuses on the concerns, fears, and futures of everyone involved in a divorce. With vital legal information and sound psychological advice, it takes readers chronologically through the divorce process and explains how to manage every step without losing emotional control, traumatizing young children, or jeopardizing the goal of reaching an agreement that will stand the test of time. Written by a family law attorney and a clinical psychologist who both specialize in family law.
WORKING MOTHERS 101: How to Organize Your Life, Your Children, and Your Career to Stop Feeling Guilty and Start Enjoying It All by Katherine Wyse Goldman. Motherhood comes naturally. Working motherhood doesn’t. This is the book for you if you’re a working mother, and especially a new working mother. It’s all laid out for you in how-to, when-to lists — and plenty of stories from mothers like you — that will help you get it all together.
DIVORCE: NEW BEGINNINGS: An Authoritative Guide to Recovery and Growth, Solo Parenting, and Stepfamilies by Genevieve Clapp, Ph. D. Dr. Clapp offers insight and help for those personally touched by a divorce, single parent or stepfamily situation. Takes parents and children step-by-step through each stage of divorce as well as the steps to rebuilding a successful family by handling daily problems and long-term concerns. Based on the findings and collective insights of hundreds of experts in these areas over the past decade and a half.
HELPING CHILDREN COPE WITH DIVORCE by Edward Teyber. A guide to helping children get through a divorce unscathed provides scientific guidelines that help parents minimize distress, explain the divorce, tailor the custody and visitation plans, shield the children from parental conflicts, and more.
Named one of the 10 Best Parenting Books of the Year by Child Magazine.
PART-TIME PARENT: Learning To Live Without Full-Time Custody Carolyn Pogue.
A one-of-kind book for all non-custodial parents. It follows the stories of 10 men and women as they go through initial separation, first birthdays, and holidays without the kids.
LEARNING TO LEAVE: A WOMAN’S GUIDE by Lynette Triere with Richard Peacock.
This informative, comprehensive guide teaches women how to get through divorce. Covers dealing with anger, fear and other emotions; choosing a lawyer; talking to husbands; helping children through the situation; reviewing employment opportunities; and more. &n effective, realistic assessment . . . highly recommended.–Library Journal
THE COURAGE TO HEAL: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse — Ellen Bass and Laura Davis.
The Courage to Heal is an inspiring, comprehensive guide that offers hope and encouragement to every woman who, was sexually abused as a child — and those who care about her. Although the effects of child sexual abuse are long-term and severe, healing is possible.
THE SINGLE FATHER: A DAD’S GUIDE TO PARENTING WITHOUT A PARTNER by Armin A. Brott.
The Single Father helps dads who are divorced, widowed, gay, or never-married to deal with the special issues of parenting alone. By combining personal experiences of solo dads with advice from psychologists, lawyers, and other experts, Brott provides insight that is both practical and reassuring. A 1999 Parents’ Choice ApprovalMAKING PEACE
IN YOUR STEPFAMILY: Surviving and Thriving as Parents and Stepparents;Harold Bloomfield, M.D.
Dr. Bloomfield has written this book in order to counter the typical trauma and disaster of stepfamilies. Bloomfield covers all the areas of a family but from the perspective of being a stepfamily. This book is important reading for anyone in a stepfamily situation. Dr. Bloomfield provides many effective tools stepfamilies can use for healing and growing.
LIFE AFTER DIVORCE: Create a New Beginning by Share Wegscheider-Cruse.
An affirming book that shows how the trauma of divorce gave away to growth and the promise of a new life.
LIFE LESSONS: 50 THINGS I LEARNED FROM MY DIVORCE byBeth Joselow.
Divorce is never easy. And no matter how prepared you think you are, it always hurts when it happen to you. Written by Ms. Joselow after her twenty year marriage ended.
THE GOOD DIVORCE: Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Falls Apart by Constance Ahrons, Ph.D. Nothing is likely to make divorce pleasant or easy, but Ahrons’ landmark longitudinal study of randomly selected postdivorce families offers hope that splitting spouses may be able to handle their breakup in a way that will permit both adults and children to emerge at least as emotionally well as they were before the divorce.
THE DIVORCE HANDBOOK: Your Basic Guide To Divorce by James T. Friedman. A family law specialist, James T. Friedman covers, in an easy-to-use question-and-answer format, all the issues involved in negotiating a separation and divorce–how to choose a lawyer; how to arrange child custody, support, and visitation; how to prevent financial hide-and-seek; what to expect of the divorce proceedings themselves; and what to do if the divorce goes to trial.
MOM’S HOUSE, DAD’S HOUSE: Making Shared Custody Work – How Parents Can Make Two Home For Their Children After Divorce by Isolina Ricci, Ph.D. According to the Stepfamily Association of America, 60 percent of all families are breaking up, and custody and visitation issues loom large in the lives of many parents. Isolina Ricci’s Mom’s House, Dad’s House guides separated, divorced, and remarried parents through the hassles and confusions of setting up a strong, working relationship with the ex-spouse in order to make two loving homes for the kids.
WOMEN WHO LOVE TOO MUCH: When You Keep Wishing And Hoping He Will Change by Robin Norwood, MFT. A life-changing book for women. The classic book that helps women who tend to be attracted to emotionally unavailable or abusive men to recognize and change the way they love through case histories and gentle advice.
Recommended to anyone who is getting out (or is still in) an abusive relationship
LETTERS FROM WOMEN WHO LOVE TOO MUCH: A Closer Look At Relationship Addiction And Recovery by Robin Norwood, MFT.
Responses to letters from readers of the classic Women Who Love Too Much (also available from the Client Lending Library).
WHEN YOUR LONG-TERM MARRIAGE ENDS: A Workbook For Divorced Women byElaine Newell.
This book focus on recovery for women who grew up with their husband, raised a family together but then suddenly found themselves alone. The author, divorced after thirty-one years of marriage, shares how she faced and eventually over came her fears and explained the ten phases of recovery.
COMPLETE FINANCIAL GUIDE FOR SINGLE PARENTS: Sound Money Strategies For Mothers Or Fathers On Their Own. by Larry Burkett. Bestselling author Larry Burkett consolidates the wisdom gleaned from his nearly twenty years of financial counseling into this practical book for divorcees, widows, and widowers. A valuable resource to help keep you and your children on a firm financial foundation.
WINNING CUSTODY: A Woman’s Guide To Retaining Custody Of Her Children by Deedra B. Hunter, M.S. You never wanted to be in this position, but you are. Now, faced with the prospect of a custody dispute, you need to make smart choices. Winning Custody can help. This book, written by a woman who is an experienced psychotherapist, a mom, and a veteran of a bitter custody dispute, will help you to find your way, maintain your sanity, and keep your kids from being caught in the custody crossfire. Winning Custody is a practical and therapeutic guide to child custody that is geared specifically toward women.
THE DIVORCE REMEDY: The Proven 7-Step Program For Saving Your Marriage by Michelle Weiner Davis. The Divorce Remedy aims to increase the chance that your marriage will not end up in divorce by offering seven clear steps that couples–or even one hopeful spouse–can implement privately. A therapist herself, relationship expert Michele Weiner Davis accurately (and often humorously) shows how typical counseling and communications tactics backfire. Her method for saving a marriage involves an effective blend of subtle and obvious action steps, each taken in specific order
DIVORCE RECOVERY: Healing The Hurt Through Self-Help And Profession Support by Allan J. Adler, M.D. and Christine Archambault. Dr. Adler and Ms. Archambault, co-founder of Divorce Anonymous, use their personal and profession experience to offer realistic advise to help you survive the emotional minefield of divorce and live a more fulfilling life.
Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce by M. Gary Neuman, L.M.H.C. Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce details many of Mr. Neuman’s workshop exercises, all designed to increase communication, understanding, and togetherness between parents and kids. The book is also packed full of suggestions on everything from the best way to break the divorce news to a child (it differs according to age group) to facing the holidays, visitation, custody arrangements, anger, discipline, co-parenting, single parenting, overcompensation, sorrow, custody fights, and much more.
DON’T SETTLE FOR LESS: A Woman’s Guide To Getting A Fair Divorce and Custody Settlement by Beverly Pekala.
A straightforward, all-incisive guide that alerts women to the pitfalls of a hasty decision just to get it over with, this book teaches women how to work within and around the system to improve the outcome of their divorce settlements. Divorced men have a higher standard of living than divorced women, this book helps women balance that inequity.
MONEY-SMART DIVORCE: What Women Need To Know About Money And Divorce by Esther Berger, CFP.
Rely on the wit and wisdom of certified financial planner Berger to explain the realities of divorce in a manner designed to take the sting out of separation while safeguarding a woman’s rights and property. Through the five stages of divorce, from initial decision to workforce reentry and prenuptial agreements, rings Berger’s voice of reason: Prince Charming will not rescue you, says she; trust your instincts; rely on the two Cs and two Ds (common sense, comfort zone, diversification, and discipline); prioritize; and look ahead, not backward. What’s more, true stories of splitsville drive home an alarming statistic and the need to heed professional advice: 73 percent of women experience a drop in their postdivorce standard of living, while most men see an increase.
THE NEWLY DIVORCED BOOK OF PROTOCOL: How To Be Civil When You Hate Their Guts by Gloria Lintermans. This book is an intimate look at divorce. It reveals what divorce tells us about ourselves, as well as delineating the important ins and outs of the legal process. The Newly Divorced Book of Protocol avoids the psychobabble which often leaves us feeling confused and unsure. It is honed with a touch of humor to remind us that, in time, the sun will shine again. In short, this book is an encyclopedia of practical, no-nonsense advice for successfully dealing with divorce problems.
GETTING FREE: You Can End Abuse And Take Back Your Life by Ginny NiCarthy. Although Getting Free was written in 1982, it is still called the bible of all domestic violence texts. It’s not just the content of the book–twenty-four chapters covering a gamut of issues–but the tone. The problems of and solutions to domestic violence are clearly defined through the voices of women as they share their experiences and carve out their steps toward freedom.
WALKING ON EGGSHELLS: Practical Counsel For Women In Or Leaving A Violent Relationship by Dr. Brian Ogawa
”Walking on Eggshells” described the feelings experience by many women who are in relationships where physical and psychological abuse are present. A thin book and quick read that could change your life.
PERSONAL FINANCE FOR DUMMIES by Eric Tyson, MBA. Personal Finance for Dummies offers sound and practical advice for those who want to get control over their personal financial lives. Author Eric Tyson points out the most common mistakes that we all make in our approach to money and prescribes ways to save and invest for a secure future.
STRESS MANAGEMENT FOR DUMMIES by Allen Elkin, Ph.D. Stress Management For Dummies can help you discover how to lower your stress level immediately. Find out what causes the most stress for people and how to avoid some of the ramifications of not dealing with that stress, such as poor health, broken marriages, and premature death. None of those are much fun, but decreasing the stress in your life can improve your chances of living a longer, happier life.
9 STEPS TO FINANCIAL FREEDOM: Practical and Spiritual Steps so you can stop worry by Suze Orman, CFP. In her nine-step program, Orman covers the ingredients to financial success–confronting our beliefs and fears, learning the nuts and bolts (and insiders secrets!) of savvy management, and finding the spiritual trust that leads to abundance.
AUDIO TAPES
THE COURAGE TO BE RICH: Creating a life of Material and Spiritual Abundance by Suze Orman. Calling on her experience as a financial planner and spiritual pilgrim, Orman explains many avenues to wealth, such as budgeting, credit, savings and investments. Topics not necessarily equated with prosperity are also discussed, like organizational skills and family-of-origin issues. This is a useful vehicle with which to organize your thoughts about the various kinds of wealth.
SURVIVING DIVORCE: How To Let Go Of The Past: Rebuild Your Future. By CareerTrack Publications.
Breaking up is hard to do…If you’re recently divorced — or in the throes of a breakup — this audio program offers warm, reassuring advice to help you let go of the past… reclaim your identity … and move toward the future you deserve. You’ll hear stories from dozens of real-life divorce survivors — people who’ve stood in your shoes and felt what you’re feeling. Their insights and experiences will aid you in dealing with everything from loneliness and isolation, to helping your children understand, to handling confrontations with your ex.
FULL ESTEEM AHEAD: Building Family Harmony Through High Self-Esteem. By Diana Loomans with Julie Loomans.
CareerTrack Publications. Experience the joys of a high esteem home… A healthy self-image is the foundation on which we build all of our relationships. Yet strong self-esteem doesn’t just happen — it takes conscious, dedicated effort to build and maintain a positive self-image in ourselves and among family members and friends. Diane Loomans joins with her daughter Julia to recount the esteem-builders that worked (and continue to work!) from their best-selling book, Full Esteem Ahead: 100 Ways to Build Self-Esteem in Children & Adults.
SWEAT IT! Richard Carlson’s Low-Stress Strategies for Success. Mr. Carlson is the author of The New York Time’s bestseller “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff. Great things happen when you don’t let the little things get to you. What’s your reaction when you’re stuck in traffic… waiting in line… on hold… or faced with others’ thoughtless or irrational behavior? If you’re like most people, you fume … fidget… mutter under your breath. You may even work yourself into a fullblown fit. The trouble is, when you spend time sweating the small stuff, you may be sacrificing your potential to achieve happiness and success in your life. Don’t Sweat It! will take you beyond merely coping with your problems and show you how to actually transcend them.
PRACTICAL TIPS FOR WORKING PARENTS: How To Successfully Juggle Work And Family byAnd Still Maintain Your Sanity! By CareerTrack Publications. Ever feel like the “world’s worst parent”? Just being a good parent is hard enough. But when you add your own career into the equation, the challenges can seem overwhelming at times. This audiotape program will give you much-needed guidance to help you handle the stress, emotional toll and guilt of being a working parent. You’ll learn tips that will make your workdays and at-home evenings less stressful, discover new ways to nourish relationships with your children and your spouse, and find out how to help your kids — whatever their ages — become happier, more confident and more responsible as they grow.
HOW TO BE A BETTER FATHER: Nurturing, Guiding And Enjoying Your Children From Birth Through Adulthood. By CareerTrack Publications. “Dad. “ It’s a little word that means a lot…Being a father is one of the most challenging, frustrating and rewarding roles you will ever take on. But how do you cut down on the confusion, so you can build relationships with your children that are strong, healthy and fulfilling? This audio program gives you insights and advice from George Hartlaub, M.D., a psychiatrist, educator and father of four. You’ll also hear from psychiatrist Daniel Foss and therapist Paul Walker, both dads themselves.
HELPING KIDS COPE WITH STRESS: Create A “Stress Safety Net “ So Your Children Feel Safe, Secure and Loved… No Matter What Life Brings Their Way. Think adults have a monopoly on stress? Think again. How much stress is your child under? Chances are, a lot more than you think. The truth is, although you may think of stress as an “adult “ problem, children of all ages experience stress due to peer pressure … tensions at home … problems at school… sibling rivalry … divorce.
SELF-EMPOWERMENT: Achieving Your Potential Through Self-Awareness. CareerTrack Publications. An audio program that deals with truth, love, and commitment.
WOMEN WHO LOVE TOO MUCH: By Robin Norwood. An abridged audio version of the classic book by Robin Norwood, MFT.